unconditional love

We heard a lecture this morning about the Christian response to Aids. Often Christians have shown the least compassion to victims of HIV. The speaker pointed out the inadequacy of a moralistic response which first finds a cause, assigns a failure and justifies punishment of some kind. Those involved end up in denial and no real help is given

I cannot imagine Jesus responding to a needy person in this kind of judgmental way, and it is the last kind of response that I would want to give. Yet, I am sobered with the possibility that a long story actually precedes me that both shapes how I respond as well as a how I come across to others.

There is a contradiction often between faith and action that this quote from Leadership Catalyst seems to capture well.

"When our theology gives us permission to label others
as 'sinners', we give ourselves permission to reject them."

How do we resolve the tension between the need to love our neighbor unconditionally on one hand with the role of our Christian value and ethic on the other? If we have a Christian moral that influences what we do, how do we reflect this in a christ-like manner?